tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2005572221369432591.post6798631611016679619..comments2023-05-04T02:26:49.748-05:00Comments on Building Personal Strength: Good Habits, Bad Habits - You're the Captain of Your SoulAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00006897130524120094noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2005572221369432591.post-13412262126995831032012-07-12T03:04:32.095-05:002012-07-12T03:04:32.095-05:00Sorry, i feel like I'm bombarding you here wit...Sorry, i feel like I'm bombarding you here with commments.<br /><br />I just find the article very interesting. On this link, is how I used BJ Fogg's habit change ideas to modified my drinking habit. How you heard of him?<br /><br />I'll read your links now and hope some day you write more about the 'behaviours/practices' you used to become the listener you wanted to be.Chrishttp://themoderatedrinker.blogspot.nl/2012/06/fantastic-bj-fogg-habit-change-made.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2005572221369432591.post-74437639277286373552012-07-12T03:01:00.240-05:002012-07-12T03:01:00.240-05:00Mini-behaviours - that might help young people wit...Mini-behaviours - that might help young people with self-esteem problems.<br /><br />In 'How to Talk to Anyone, 92 ....' Leil Lowndes said that one of the biggest way to change people's perceptions of you is 'proper posture'. She suggested that we should adjust our posture (straighten up) everytime we go through a door. <br /><br />This is great advice but I didn't develop the habit when I read it because I simply didn't remember to do it consistently enough. But this advice can be formalised! Why not, five minutes (for 30 days) walk through doors and constantly adjust your body to a better posture. Kind of drill an automatic response into your self. <br /><br />With very shy people - get them to look at a book and everytime, they see a person, they have to smile (or think of why this person would be great as a friend etc). <br /><br />I don't know whether they would work (the door one did for me) but simple and highly repeatable actions couple with a target behaviour could be beneficial for a lot of people.English Simplicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08291692889512379501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2005572221369432591.post-65226336037827264172012-07-12T02:34:38.279-05:002012-07-12T02:34:38.279-05:00Great read, especially highlighting the conditions...Great read, especially highlighting the conditions for forming a new habit in 30 days. <br /><br />Perhaps with complex behaviour patterns, the secret is to focus on making the habit as simple and easy to do as possible. <br /><br />I used to get drunk most times I started drinking. I wasn't proud of this and did try to change a few times but without much success. This continued for 25 years!<br /><br />But the change come when I targeted one behaviour and that was learning to stop after one drink. <br /><br />What made this so simple was that it was very specific i.e. easy to know that you have achieved this. <br /><br />As most of my drinking was in the home, it was easy to modify the environment. I put a notice on my wine. It reminded me, why drinking only one as a great idea (forgeting was my main problem with being consistent). <br /><br />So with complex behaviour perhaps our target should be targeting 'a behaviour' that simple to do but will (or is likely to) have an impact on the overall behaviour.Chrishttp://themoderatedrinker.blogspot.nl/2012/05/learn-at-home-stop-drinking-after-one.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2005572221369432591.post-64817456048162938802012-06-22T08:44:27.230-05:002012-06-22T08:44:27.230-05:00Probably not a good idea to read this post while e...Probably not a good idea to read this post while eating my cereal this morning, even if it does have blueberries on top! <br /><br />Just kidding. Good stuff and I especially like the one about spending two hours each morning working on what's most important. If I don't do it then, it's unlikely to happen at all.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06579979064302832829noreply@blogger.com