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This makes the teen journey difficult, dangerous and momentous. Which is why people's teen journey stories are so interesting to me. About a dozen people have shared their stories with me so far, and it's been fascinating. I've learned some things I didn't know...
- No two stories are alike.
- No matter what parents do, they have an enormous influence on what teens do and on their development into adults.
- Few parents have good communication skills.
- All teens need love from their parents; and if they don't get it, they seek it elsewhere.
- While their kids' journeys are ongoing, parents are unaware that their kids are on these journeys, or what the journeys are like.
- The journeys of siblings in a family are usually remarkably different.
- Some teens grow up crippled for adult life because they never learned about hard work.
- Teenagers are incapable of self-imposing discipline and structure, so they need this support from adults.
- Luck is sometimes a factor - events out of a teen's control can happen in their favor.
- Sometimes the cultural era in which the teen lived is a big influence.
One thing you can do to make a huge difference in your teen's journey is to give him or her one of these "heads-up" books...
Conversations with the Wise Aunt - for girls
Conversations with the Wise Uncle - for boys
Post by Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D., Copyright 2011. Building Personal Strength . (Permission to use graphic purchased from fotolia.net)