But from the perspective of over 60 years of life experience, I had a revelation: back in high school I actually knew very little about her. Yes, that may be the nature of teen relationships, but I was shocked to realize that I knew so little about this person I once cared so much about.
Your friends, the people you care about - how much do you know about them? What is there to know? Actually, there's a lot to know. If you really want to know someone, you could take the time to learn about their...
- Character strengths and weaknesses
- Personality traits
- Attitudes, opinions
- Hang-ups, issues
- Family members
- Friends, associates
- Connections - influential people they know
- Knowledge, education
- Practical skills
- Social skills
- Athletic skills
- Life history - experiences, stories
- Behavior patterns and habits
- Professional life
- Personal finances
- Sexual preferences
- Religion, beliefs
Benini said that remark jolted him. He realized he had been kidding himself, fooling around with his art. He needed to get serious. He needed to "turn pro."
It took Benini only five minutes to tell this story, but afterwards I felt as if I knew him better. He had shared another key piece of his personal history, and our friendship deepened.
Of course there's a lot more to know about my friend, more than I'll ever know. That's why friendship is a journey. And he's not done with his life. He has more stories to live. If I want to maintain our friendship I'll have to continue investing time in it.
A human life is sacred, and each person walks the path of life essentially alone. A relationship is sacred, because it's how we penetrate the membrane of separateness. How much do you really know about your friends? For that matter, how much do you know about yourself? How thoroughly have you explored the answers to these questions?
Post by Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D., Copyright 2012. Building Personal Strength .