When his trust fund was all but lost, he asked his parents to replenish it. They refused. They told him to get a job. But he had a problem with that, so they asked me to help him find a niche in the workplace.
Nothing worked. Getting a paying job was totally alien to him. He wouldn't have anything to do with it. He didn't even want to discuss it.
He was a 43-year-old boy, weak in all the ways that make someone a man.
If you've been following this blog, you know I often write about personal strengths. Some of these 40 strengths directly support what we call a "work ethic."
It's hard to earn your way in the world and make a life for yourself. I believe these strengths are among the top essential elements of a strong work ethic:
- Perseverance - not giving up on a difficult task
- Excellence - doing what's needed to achieve a high standard
- Self-discipline - staying on track, saying no to distractions
- Effort - Working hard, working long, even when tired
- Initiative - Doing what needs to be done, even without being told
I was fortunate because I came from a large family with a lower-middle-class background. My parents couldn't afford to give me an allowance. So from a young age, I looked for ways to earn money. By the time I was 16 I had worked a half dozen different jobs.
The 43-year-old silver-spooner who had always been given everything wasn't so lucky.
Listen to this discussion about parents who encourage kids to acquire a work ethic.
Post by Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D., Copyright 2013. Building Personal Strength .