1. You do what other people tell you to do. Boss. Friend. Parent. Spouse. Your TV set.
2. You react instinctively, emotionally.
3. You unconsciously act out of habit. Your brain is wired for a particular behavior pattern.
4. You consciously evaluate your situation and your options and decide what to do.
There are good habits. There are bad habits.
There are good decisions. There are bad decisions.
If you aren't trying to improve your habits, if you acquire habits without thought and do things that are to your own detriment or the detriment of others, you're out of control.
When consciously making decisions, if you aren't carefully evaluating your options, you're out of control.
All actions have consequences. Some small. Some big. Some huge.
These consequences show up, impact your life and cause you to take more action. If you aren't aware of the role of your actions in a chain of events, you're life is out of control.
The truth is not many people think about why they do things. It's as if they're not accepting responsibility, not in charge of their own lives. Moving around in space but not fully alive. Like zombies.
How about you? Are you in control?
Are you aware of how and why you do things?
Post by Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D., Copyright 2014. Building Personal Strength .