Showing posts with label Eben Pagan. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Eben Pagan. Show all posts

Friday, November 29, 2013

Eben Pagan with Tony Robbins - Compassion and Acts of Kindness

I came across this brief video featuring personal development expert Eben Pagan, in which he shares his understanding of compassion with speaker and author Tony Robbins. His premise - that compassion is a much more powerful relationship skill than people realize, whether in business or one's personal life. Always articulate, Eben clarifies the practice of compassion:



Watching this video reminded me of a simple act of kindness that had a profoundly beneficial impact on me personally.

One day my friend, Clinton, who lives a few blocks from me, was talking to Ron, who works in the California wine industry and lives part-time locally to be near family. Ron said he was bringing several cases of wine to his new home here, but he wasn't sure how he was going to store it.

Clinton immediately connected the dots. He knew we were moving and had to get rid of our large wine cooler, so he told Ron about it. "It's huge. I'm sure they have to sell it, and you can probably get it cheaper than you'd have to pay for a much smaller one."

Clinton called to be sure we were home, then he persuaded Ron to come over to take a look at it. Clinton introduced us, and a sequence of events then took place. Ron said he loved it but would have to take some measurements to be sure it would fit in his house. When that checked out, we haggled over price.

Alexa, 8 weeks old
While this was going on, Ron told us that he found a tiny kitten crying at his back door, so he had started feeding it. He didn't know what he was going to do, though, because he had to return to California for a couple months. Since our cat Max had passed away, my wife, Kathleen, had been wanting a new kitty. When she went over to his house to see it, she was so taken with her that she brought her back for me to see. I have to admit, it was love at first sight.

"If you agree to this price, I'll take the cat off your hands," Kathleen said.

Then there was the matter of moving this restaurant-sized wine cooler from our house to Ron's. It had two french doors, each of which weighed 150 pounds. He rounded up some friends and family, and Clinton and I helped them disassemble the cooler and haul it down the street to Ron's house.

An hour later...
  • The wine cooler we didn't know how to get rid of was in Ron's dining room.
  • We were $900 richer than we were when we got up that morning.
  • A desperate little homeless kitty had found a loving home.
  • And we had a beautiful new spirit in our lives.
We named her Alexa, although I still call her "Baby Girl." Ten weeks later she had grown to four times the size when we got her, our older cat Ernest has adopted her as his little sister, and we can't imagine living without her.
Alexa, 4 months old
All the events of that fateful day happened because Clinton was so persistent about facilitating an act of kindness. There was nothing in it for him. He just wanted to do something nice for his friends. He didn't know that the consequences would be life-changing.

We don't know how Baby Girl ended up in the woods in our neighborhood, but she was lucky that she came to the right house, that Ron was living there at the time, that he was goodhearted enough to care for her, that we would meet Ron because of the wine cooler, and that discovering and adopting Baby Girl would become part of the negotiation.

They talk about "random acts of kindness." Hey, acts of kindness don't have to be random. Just do them! You never know how wonderful the ultimate consequences will be.

Post by Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D., Copyright 2013. Building Personal Strength .

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Eben Pagan - Insights about FUN and RELAXATION

Success gurus Eben Pagan, Tony Robbins and Dan Kennedy tell us that one of the keys to success is something they call MASSIVE ACTION. They're probably right. In my company, we try to implement that imperative every day. It makes for some intense days!

But in my experience I think you also need to achieve something called BALANCE. There ain't gonna be any massive action if your batteries run out.

Actually, Eben Pagan agrees with me on this. Give a listen to this brief video clip...



By the way, in case you missed it, the techniques I describe in my post on FOCUS were adapted from Eben Pagan's productivity series, "Wake Up Productive."

Post by Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D., Copyright 2010. Building Personal Strength .

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

The Personal Strength of Focus - A Time Management Secret

In an earlier life, I was a West Point cadet, served a combat tour in Vietnam, and retired as lieutenant colonel after 20 years’ service. In other words, I studied the principles of war and had the opportunity to apply them.

One of the principles was called “Mass.” I think today it might be called “Concentration of Force.” The idea is to discover the enemy’s vulnerability and then concentrate overwhelming force at that point. The disruption and disarray this causes leads to other opportunities.

As a young man it was fascinating to analyze wars throughout history using the principles of war. But it’s pretty grim stuff when you apply it on the modern battlefield. As I said, that was another life. Today I use the Principle of Mass to work through my “To-Do” list.

I wasn’t always so successful. My typical workday went something like this…

I’d start my computer and check my three email accounts for urgent messages. If there were any, I’d answer them. I’d check my blog, Facebook and Twitter—got to engage, or what’s it all about? While I was doing that, I got a couple instant messages from my coworkers. One wanted me to check a text file. The other asked for information. We ended up talking on the phone instead. My To-Do list has about twenty important projects. Daunting. I noticed a yellow post-it on my desk: “Return Bob’s call after 9.” I did that. The call took longer than I thought it would. I answered an instant message query while talking to him. Bob asked for some original text. After the call, I wrote it and sent it to him. I opened a file I was working on the day before and refined some of the language. I got a call from my business partner, so I closed the file to talk to her. My coffee was cold, so I went to warm it. When I returned, I decided to work on the file. But first I checked email for more messages. Several needed attending to. I looked up and realized that it was time for lunch. The afternoon went pretty much the same way. I finished the day exhausted and with a feeling that I didn’t make progress on any of my priorities. The pressure of time bore down on me harder than before, and I vowed that tomorrow would be different.

This, of course, is miserably frustrating. It’s the way of failure. But I have the answer. It was given to me by a productivity expert named Eben Pagan. In one of his programs he outlined a brilliant approach to achieving focus and getting things done during my day.

It starts with the day before…

Before shutting down for the day, decide which project you want to spend concentrated time on the next day. This should be the most important project you have. Ideally, it’ll be the one you’re most passionate about. Schedule two hours—with a half-hour break in between—to work on the project. Then find everything you’ll need the next day to support your work. Arrange it in your workspace for easy access. Go to bed early enough to rise refreshed.

Start the next day with stretching, exercise, hygiene and a healthy breakfast. Eben recommends making this a life habit. Arrive at your workspace a half-hour before the scheduled time for working on the project. Take care of anything urgent. Review your task objective and support materials. Remind people that you’ll be in “prime time” for two scheduled hours and can be reached after these periods. Then at exactly the appointed time (plus or minus five minutes), start a one-hour timer. And begin work. Do nothing but your task during the hour. When the timer alarm goes off, stop. Take a half-hour break. The idea is to recharge your energy for the next hour, so relax, meditate, check email--whatever works.

At the appointed hour, reset your timer and resume work. Again, do nothing but work on your priority project. When the timer goes off, stop. Now you can deal with all the things that used to distract you from getting things done.

This may sound like an unnatural or unfamiliar level of discipline. A timer? Yes, a timer. Get one at your office supply store for $10.

I’ve always believed in the axiom, “Structure will set you free,” and Eben Pagan’s method really puts it to the test. He contends that if you take this approach, you’ll get far more done in these two hours than you used to during a typical unstructured day. All I can say is, it’s hard to argue with him, because it works. I’ve been using this time management method, and I’ve discovered there are no downsides. Only positives. The lesser important things are put in their place. They no longer distract me. I’ve been getting a tremendous amount of work done. It’s how I deploy my energy at work using the Principle of Mass. And I’ve won some battles!

If you’re plagued by the inability to focus and get important things done, I recommend you try structuring your mornings like this. Do it every day until it becomes routine. Later, if you want to, you can structure your afternoons like this and get twice as much done.

I’ll say this. The method makes sense, but it’s different. It’s easy to talk about it and think about it, but changing a work routine is like making a lifestyle change. You won’t find it comfortable at first. That comes later.

Here's another Fortune Cookie for you...


Go off in every direction, and you’ll end up nowhere.



The story behind the Fortune Cookies...

Post by Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D., Copyright 2010. Building Personal Strength . (License to use photo purchased from istockphoto.com)