“Yes! Congratulations! That’s quite an accomplishment.”
“Hmm. I never thought of it that way. It was actually no big deal.”
“Are you kidding? It takes a lot of work to do that, to stick with it and meet all the requirements. You’ve got my respect.”
“I don’t see it that way. It’s just something I did.”
It was easy to see why he had problems with low self-esteem. Self-esteem has to be earned.
Well, he had accomplished something really worthwhile. But he hadn’t given himself credit for it! It was as if what he had done didn’t count.
This interest is high self-esteem.
Jeff‘s achievement was worth a lot. But instead of thinking of it as a big deposit, like $10,000 in a savings account, he thought of it as trivial—worth only ten cents. He discounted his achievement, so he didn’t give himself credit. No wonder his self-esteem account was practically empty!
The key is to do things that you feel good about, and give yourself credit. Even small amounts, deposited regularly, add up over time.
Your friend was recovering from a loss, so you took her a covered dish. Give yourself credit!
You started using an app that makes it simple to do something that was complicated. Give yourself credit!
You checked the Internet and made a bunch of calls and found what you were looking for at a much lower price, saving a couple hundred dollars. Give yourself credit!
You figured out how to clear the clogged drain in your bathroom sink. Give yourself credit!
You studied for months and passed a certification exam. You wrote an article. You cleaned out the garage. You reached 10 gallons in total blood donations. You set up a surprise birthday party for a friend. You quit smoking. You created your own website.
What you did has value, so don’t discount it.
Give yourself credit!
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Post by Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D., Copyright 2013. Building Personal Strength .